第9章
Hes Just Not That Into You If Hes Disappeared onYou
假如他玩消失那他肯定没那样喜欢你
Sometimes You Have to Get Closure All by Yourself
有时你要全靠自己来结束它
Hes gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Well, theresno mixed message here.
他离开了。呼的一下消失的不见踪影。这里可没模糊的信息了。
Hes made it clear that hes so not into you that he couldnt even bother to leave you a Post|it.
他非常了解的表明了自己非常不喜欢你以至于连个便利贴都没给你留。
This time you may not be so quick to make excuses for his behavior.
这次你或许无法迅速给他的行为找借口了。
Its so painful, its impossible not to be hurt or angry.
这太痛苦了，不可能不受伤，感到生气。
But because of that, you might be tempted to make some excuses for yourself.
但正因这样，你或许应该为自己找找借口。
You have good reason to want to spend a lot of energy solving the Mystery of the DisappearingMan.
你有足够的原因想花大力气去解开这个消失的男性之谜。
But all those excuses, however valid they are, will not help you in the long run.
但所有些这类借口，不管有多正当，在长远来讲对你而言是无益的。
Because the only part of that story thats important to remember is that he didnt want to bewith you anymore.
由于这件事中唯一关键的部分就是记住他再也不想跟在一块这一点。
And he didnt have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.
而且他没勇气面对面的对你说。结案。
The Maybe Hes Dead Excuse
或许他去世了的借口
Dear Greg,
亲爱的格雷格，
I had a brief fling with a really cute French guy.
我和一个魔力四射的法国人一夜风流。
It was really fun, but it also felt like maybe it could be more than that.
那真的非常有趣，但我感觉或许可以更进一步。
He went back to France and we started e|mailing each other.
他回到了法国，大家开始互发邮件。
It was really sweet and romantic.
这真的非常甜蜜浪漫。
All of a sudden, after one of my e|mails, he sTOPped writing. Its been two weeks.
忽然之间，在我发了一封邮件之后，他不回复我了，迄今已有两周。
Greg, maybe something happened to him.
格雷格，或许他出了什么事。
Maybe he didnt get my last e|mail. Maybe I wrote something that upset him.
或许他没收到我最后一封邮件。或许是由于我写了什么惹他生气了。
I hate thinking that I will never ever hear from him again. Thats so harsh.
我不愿去想再也听不到他的消息了。这太残酷了。
Cant I write him again, just to make one more attempt to connect with him?
我可以再给他写邮件么，就再试一次联系他?
Signed Nora
娜拉
Dear Freedom Fry,
亲爱的自由薯条，
Yes, you can e|mail him if you want to give him the opportunity to reject you one more time.
是的，你可以给他发邮件，假如你想给他一个第三拒绝你的机会的话。
Could he have gotten run over by a pommes frites truck and is in the hospital and thats why hedisappeared? Yes.
他可不可能是被一辆炸薯条卡车撞了目前在医院，所以消失了?可能。
But I have to say, the law of averages says that its more likely he met someone or realized thatthe long distance thing wasnt for him, or that you simply may not the be the American girl ofhis dreams.
但我需要说，常规告诉我说他更可能是认识了其他人，或者意识到自己不喜欢异地恋，又或只不过你并不是他梦中的美国女生。
If you want to write him and ask him again to close the door in your face, for the one in amillion chance his phone died and his e| mail crashed, and he lost all your contact information,be my guest.
假如你执意要第三给他写邮件让他拒绝你，有万分之一的机会他的手机死机了，邮件奔溃了，然后他丢失了你所有些联系方法，请便。
Just dont say I didnt warn you.
不要说我没警告你。
XOXO, Greg
亲亲抱抱，格雷格
